Seven Deadly Habits and Seven Caring Habits for a Healthy Relationship

Mar 21, 2015 by

Seven Deadly Habits and Seven Caring Habits for a Healthy Relationship

Seven Deadly Habits and the Seven Caring Habits for Relationships


The following list of Deadly Habits and Caring Habits are from William Glasser’s Choice Theory (Reality Therapy).


Deadly Habits:

1.   Criticizing: in this context this means talking about something or someone in a negative, disapproving way.

2.   Blaming: this means to think or say and to hold someone else responsible for something bad that has happened.

3.   Complaining: to say that you are unhappy, uncomfortable, sick, upset, annoyed, etc., or that you do not like                           something.

4.   Nagging: to annoy someone with repeated questions, requests, or orders and to constantly complain about their                   behavior, appearance, etc.

5.   Threatening: to try to get someone to do something that they do not want to do by telling them you will harm them             or something they care about in some way.

6.   Punishing: making someone suffer for a perceived slight, misjudgment or bad behavior by treating them meanly or              severely.

7.   Bribing or Rewarding: in this context; giving someone payment of some kind in order to get them to do something               they do not want to do.

Caring Habits:

 1.   Supporting

2.   Encouraging

3.   Listening

4.   Accepting

5.   Trusting

6.   Respecting

7.   Negotiating Differences

In order to have a healthy relationship, it is very important that we understand and accept each other.  If we are using the deadly habits to control another person, they will become defensive and any communication will end in further misunderstandings and resentment.  If we are using the caring habits, we gain a greater understanding of each other and with this understanding comes compassion and acceptance.  If we are communicating poorly with another person, we often misjudge their intentions and make false assumptions about them, which leads to further erosion of the relationship.   We cannot grow and thrive in a relationship unless the roots of love and compassion are its grounding forces.

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